let's talk about sex baby..

so far, the biggest culture shock for me hasn't been england itself, it's the people i've met.

i was chatting with a friend a half hour ago, and the topic was sex *gasp* shhh. back home - recently i've been overwhelmed with strong feelings of discontentment with singapore, my country and its citizens is/are so narrow-minded and old fashioned about many issues that youths are grappling with these days, it's infuriatingly stifling - sex is taboo and even mentioning the word (in public) is out of the question, let alone the possibility having a healthy discussion (over dinner, like in sex and the city heh).

you can't talk about sex without someone judging you or looking at you differently (don't try to say otherwise. it's the truth and you know it), irregardless of whether you've actually done it or not. i haven't actually discussed my sex life openly, neither do i know or enquire about the sex life of most of my closest friends.

fact: society frowns upon those who admit to having premarital sex.

(or sex of any kind actually)

this sort of judgement acts as a barrier, preventing people from asking questions and being better informed about sex education or use of contraception, basically information that could prevent unwanted pregnancies and abortions in the long run.

it's so funny because my friend was telling me, after she told her mother she had lost her virginity, her mother brought her out for dinner and bought her a mobile phone and baked her a cake, i think. apparently, in greece, it's considered part of the completion of womanhood, a time for celebration!

i wish i could be as open about all aspects of my life with my mother without fear of reproach or judgement. unfortunately i genuinely believe she might die of shock or get a heart attack if she knew every single intimate detail of my life - not that i'm a bad girl or anything, just not as good as she would like me to be *naughty grin*